Shlomo is an Avrech, father of four children and happy with his life. There is only one dark cloud hovering over him; he carries a painful memory of his early youth.

He was a young man with a good heart, talented and original, always looking for interesting ways to live. Unlike him, his parents were very conventional people, always taking into account 'what people will say''.

This gap between Shlomo the "rebel" and his parents, the "conformists" who blindly obeyed social norms was the source of many conflicts.

His parents were too rigid to comply with Shlomo's whims. They insulted him and punished him day after day to force him to behave properly...

His father would tighten his lips in frustration and his mother would shed torrents of tears at the lighting of the Shabbat candles, praying that her son would become "normal" and follow the 'regular' path.

Shlomo himself grew up with a constant feeling of failure. He often thought with a pang in his heart: "It would have been better if I had not come into the world. "

The years passed ... Shlomo was accepted into a second-rate Yeshiva. His parents did not know what to do; they were so ashamed. Then, they began hearing less than complimentary rumors regarding their son: Shlomo began to make friends with suspicious young men ... He was often absent from home...

When Shlomo ended up spending more time outside than in Yeshiva, his parents understood that they needed the help of an expert!

Preserving their good name was no longer high on their list of priorities. They were more worried about their son who was going off the right path.

Slowly but surely, they got to know their "strange" son and they even began to love his originality.

A year of prayers and anxieties passed. Guided at every step, Shlomo's parents tried to fix what had gone wrong, until, with the help of Heaven, the crisis passed, and Shlomo returned to his Talmud.

Shlomo's story is one example among many! Conflicts between parents and children can have many different facets: the parent loves he order whilst their child is disorganized, or a parent has hot blood whilst their child is an introvert...

But the stories do not all end as well as Shlomo's. Often, parents go through a long and difficult journey!

These experiences shed light on a universal truth: every child is a gift from G-d, and the parents are only their guardians. The Creator of the world relies on them to raise their children and to make the best of each one.

A child does not have to be exactly like his parents or follow their path, he must satisfy G-d with his innate potential.

It is not easy for a father who studies Torah all day to discover that his son cannot do the same. The mother also finds it hard to understand why her daughter cannot accommodate to the education she herself received.

When you leave the hospital with your infant wrapped up, you must already tell yourself that this wonderful baby is a divine parcel that G-d has entrusted to you.

You must have a deep conviction that you have all the means to make them flourish!

You must not behave with your child according to your personal desires, but rather according to what is for their good.

Daniel is my eldest son. He enjoyed a lot of attention and benefited from all my prayers. But he was also 'suffered' from all my errors as a novice mom.

I am impulsive and my Daniel did not always cooperate ... I sometimes hit him and sometimes very hard!

I am ashamed to admit it, but I poured all my anger and frustration on this little child who could not defend himself.

I calmed my feelings of guilt that attacked me in the wee hours of the night. I told myself that a real education necessitated blows and that there was no reason why the children of today could not be raised like those of previous generations.

Listening to lectures on this subject however, I suddenly changed my point of view.

I realized that my child should not be a scapegoat for my feelings ...

Some parents see their child as an opportunity to succeed where they themselves failed, even if their child does not have the ability!

I love to rest, but I want my son to be the most diligent Yeshiva Bachur! I'm am waiting for news from the Mashgiach, otherwise I will be disappointed ...

If my daughter gets less than an A on a composition, I cannot talk to her. To be honest, I myself never scored more than B-. But her father is a genius, and there is no reason why she should not take after him! She's just lazy.

G-d asks us to perceive our child differently, to try to understand them, to grasp his/her character, qualities and aptitudes and to find a way to educate them properly. It's not about raising them according to our personality!